Football is America’s alpha male. All things masculine, testosterone-infused, and worthy of a “guy’s night out” tend to congregate around a pitcher of beer and the nightly game. Monday Night Football even gives the ladies a chance to eat hot wings, sport their favorite NFL jersey, and act like one of the boys. It is a sport that has something for everyone. For the guys, it is a chance to witness modern day gladiators fight to the death in cement coliseums. For the gals, they can shamelessly watch men in spandex and follow their favorite ‘tight end’ to the endzone.
But this is 2006…red and blue states, right and left, #### and straight. While it may be easier to distinguish the sports bars from the #### bars in the Midwest, here in New York it is getting harder and harder to tell the Wall Streeters from the Chelsea Boys. The lines that used to separate heterosexual from homosexual behavior are blurring more and more each day. I used to consider myself a champion of “####dar” but what I’ve come to recognize in New York is that men no longer fall to such extremes and many that I used to suspect as straight are #### and visa versa.
Sports are universal, regardless of sexual preference, and anyone can enjoy them on either side of the ball. While #### ice skaters and swimmers are hardly shocking, what if we had a #### football star? Many #### men are already football fans, but is America ready for #### sports stars in traditional alpha male roles?
Before you stop reading, disturbed by such a proposition, imagine the hypothetical. In Richard Greenberg’s Tony Award winning play, Take Me Out, a fictional baseball star shocks the world when he announces he’s ####. The playwright explores the modern day paradox of a hugely popular ‘alpha male sports figure’ who breaks the mold by shattering sexual conventions. Can the beer and nacho sports fan still love a dynamic player who falls left of center?
In Take Me Out, Greenberg illustrates the hypothetical by creating a fictional team, the New York Empires (dressed in pinstripe uniforms), and focuses his story around the star player, Darren Lemming. (When the play debuted in New York, that star player had a striking resemblance to Derek Jeter.) The play further explores the way Darren’s homosexuality affects the locker room, his teammates, #### supporters, and the traditional American sports fan.
Granted, the play dealt with baseball, but can you imagine what might happen if a major NFL quarterback broke boundaries and headlines if he were to make a similar announcement? If The Sopranos can write a storyline about a #### capo, the idea o####a href="http://community.foxsports.com/CensorSetting.aspx?url=http%3a%2f%2fcommunity.foxsports.com%2fblogs%2ftjw118%2f2006%2f08%2f23%2fWhat_if">#### football star isn’t inconceivable. To be honest, I believe that player already exists. I’m not talking about ex-NFL star Esera Tuaolo who recently published a book about living as a closet-#### man in the NFL, I’m talking about a bona fide star player in the prime of his career announcing he is ####.
If there is one thing we all learned in the last presidential election, it’s that America is divided by red and blue states. While the dominance and acceptance of homosexual behavior may favor the blue, the middle grounds of red states have a stronghold over majority opinion. As a straight girl with a #### roommate and numerous #### friends, (and a preference for #### bars because they are wickedly fun and non-threatening to women), I have no problem with a #### football star. In fact, I think it would welcome an entirely new type of football supporter, one that has rarely experienced the sport because many #### men and women feel ostracized by the average football fan.
Football players are seen as strong and dominant. Therefore, how appropriate that a male football star takes the initiative and has the courage to stand up before society and admit his sexuality. Having witnessed too many friends struggle with their homosexuality and resist telling their friends and family, such a star would be an inspiration to people who are ready to come clean about who they are. If a high profile man admitted he was #### perhaps more people would understand that sexuality is a trait that cannot be chosen, changed, or reversed.
On the flip side, I can already see those red states and their inhabitants throwing up their hands in horror that such a lifestyle would ruin the sport, the team, morale, and all things sacred to the American dream. Football players are seen as the ‘ultimate male,’ so how could that man be ####?
Perhaps more perplexing is how this behavior might alter the team morale and locker room conduct. Would straight players feel uncomfortable to shower or walk around nude as they traditionally have in the past? Would they still protect and follow the audibles of their #### quarterback? Would trust between players be abandoned and the team suffer in the long run? While I’d like to think that most players would be supportive of their quarterback and his announcement, I cannot begin to answer these questions because I don’t know how the offensive line might react.
In Esera Tuaolo’s book, Alone in the Trenches: My Life as a #### Man in the NFL, the former Green Bay Packer discusses the stress, torment, and fear that he constantly lived with being #### and playing football. While he may be the third player ever in the NFL to come out, his story only illustrates how difficult it can be living with such a secret. While no one doubt’s Tuaolo’s “manliness” as a defensive powerhouse, many believe that his teammates would have turned on him and eaten him alive if he had come out while still playing.
#### football stars exists, but just like the Army, a ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ policy applies in the NFL. For a player to make such an assertion would be a gargantuan gamble. Not only is he willing to put his career on the line (and millions of dollars), he is subjecting his character to vast criticism and a national debate. In the end he could come out as a hero, a martyr, and a pariah.
Besides the risk the individual player would face, the NFL would have a publicity nightmare to settle. Right-winged fans many may chose to show their displeasure by boycotting NFL games and merchandise, thus creating financial woe to the organization. While many liberal supporters of the player may creep from the woodwork to cheer him on, would they support the NFL by making up for the loss of conservative fans? The NFL isn’t ready or willing to find out.
Today it is just a hypothetical, tomorrow it could be the next Hollywood movie, but someday it will be a reality. I applaud the man who has the guts to come forward, but I do not envy the hard and controversial decisions he will have to make.
I'm sure it's bound to be an issue sooner or later. But it could very well be that the first player to announce it, could be the end of his sports career. At least in football.
People would be obsessed with the issue...but still doesn't make sense to me. Does it matter?
Nice to see you back, Belle. I'll have to check out what's going on over at Absolute's site. Sound pretty neat.
i dont care if they're ####, just as long as they dont try to perform a special new touchdown celebration....or slam dunk...or give new meaning to "ball boy" or "bat boy"....bleh....
i dont even like PDA between a man and a woman, i certainly dont want to see it between 2 guys. 2 women on the other hand....nah, still dont want to see that in public.
1 note that i'm sure i'll get chastised for...if the nfl feels they need to weed out any players who may be ####, they can always put terrel owens on the payroll to pick them out. i mean, you can tell which ones are just by having never seen them out on the town with a woman...right? and, if they wanted, they could start right away, its not like he's playing right now or anything.
This kind of reminds me of a routine by comedian Greg Giraldo. Because the stereotype is beginning to be that #### guys work out alot and are buff soon it won't be so bad to be called ####.
"Hey, what is that guy, #### or something?" "Yeah, he benches like 300 lbs" "Wow, that's the ####est guy I've ever seen!!"
"Hey, you're son's looking pretty #### out there. What is he a linebacker?" "Yeah, I'm so proud".
I certainly did not come up with that kind of what if a week ago when I wrote a 'what if' piece as well.
I read Bloody Sunday which had a section on a #### NFL player who talked about why he could not come out of the closet or else his career would be over. Tough to understand when we aren't in that kind of position.
I'm sure a #### player exists, but I don't see anyone admitting it because so many people hate ####s. Personally, I think it's a stupid issue, because I couldn't give two s$@%s about if person A likes dudes over dudettes.
And our government, wasting time with #### marriage, when we have serious issues in this country, like the war, public schools, crime, drugs, etc.
Hey Belle, I agree with Mr NFL above. I think there's a really good chance we already have a #### NFL star, maybe more than one, we just don't know it....I would be more than surprised if he ever came out and admitted it though, since football is probably the final frontier of macho-ism....
Hi Belle, thoughtful piece. I think whether a person is #### or strait, football is a team sport. Anything that hurts team chemistry hurts the team (See TO). Just keep all your personal stuff personal. My thoughts, anyway.
Thought provoking piece,
I don't know if any of you watched the ESPN football series "Playmakers." The series dealt with a player being #### and hiding it. He's finally outted just before the pro-bowl selections are announced and he's his team's only player selected. Before that he gets his butt kicked in during practice, via late hits after high passes from his QB. No doubt there's at least 2 or 3 #### guys playing in the NFL today. Do I want to know? I don't think so! I know that sounds homophobic, what can I say. I remember saying in one post that football is completely dependent on teamwork and team chemistry. If a player being #### hurts a team's chemistry, I'm sure he'd be terminated. Question, is Strahan one of the #### stars in the NFL? His wife thinks so...or is she just being bitter? You never know.
I think it's amazing that the "don't ask, don't tell" thing is OK when it's about your sexual orientation, but when it comes to things like criminal activity (wife beating, illegal betting, drug use), the telling and accepting after the telling is widely accepted.
Case in point: Boston pitcher Brett Meyers & wife beating allegations. His quote: ``I'm sorry it had to get public. Of course, it's embarrassing . . . But my teammates have been great. They've been behind me 100 percent. That's all I've got."
Uh huh. But if he were a kind, loving, loyal #### spouse, he'd get what?
At least the fans booed him.
Not to mince words, but I'm a gal and I like beer, tight spandex *and* gladiator-like battles on the field. ;-)
CarolynT,
You are so correct. Players and some fans will forgive a player just about anything, except being ####. Giambi confessed to cheating with roids took a small bit of heat and is now the apple of the MLB's eye. He cheated and everything is all good now. I'm happy he's doing well because I'm a Yankees fan, but if I were a competitor, I'd be pissed. Ray Lewis was allegedly involved in a murder case, shortly after he's on the cover of Madden 2004, go figure!
The problem with being #### in the NFL is simple, those queens. If u are #### u have to accept those guys as having something in common with you, and your teammates have to accept having something in common with you. So by a process of elimination your teammates have something in common with the queens( men who are #### but act really feminine or their perceived immage of feminine). The teammates are not down with that and probably never will be.
Do you really think that this is the next "progressive issue" that needs to be accepted as fair for all?
Hmmmmm... Sexual orientation is a form of choice more than DNA in my opinion, but that is another can of worms...
All I can say is, I hope my guys (team) like women, serve LDS missions, wait to consummate things until marriage, and make lots of babies.
See why I like BYU? I also love IU, and I hope the best for all football players---except for Maurice Clarett. Just kidding, I pray for his soul, too...
College football ain't broke, The BCS is! But it is getting better...
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Right, what guy in their right mind would choose to be ####? "Hey, I think I'll choose to do somethnig that'll make people hate me for no good reason and throw my life into utter chaos. In fact I'll choose to do it, but not tell anyone, marry a woman and ruin her life when she finds out!! Brilliant!"
Now, there may be things that happen during a child's upbringing that may influence things one way or another. But anyone who thinks anyone (especially men) consciously chooses to be #### is a little nuts in my mind. No offense, I'm a little nuts too. That's "I'm a" not "I have" by the way.
Phew! I thought for a moment no one read my article because I didn't get any "comment e-mails" mailed to me! Lucky me to see that some of you did read it! Thanks!
I really appreciate everyones comments. The only thing I have to say is in regards to Clinch and Travis. Clinch, I know it is your religious belief to think that being #### is a choice, but I'm with Travis here...I've seen too many friends loose their family and loved ones because of their struggle to admit their homosexuality. I don't believe that they had a choice because no one would ever want to deal with such a circumstance. Of course, that is an entirely different conversation for a different website.
As for others, I'm with you in agreeing that there are more #### NFL-ers out there. It would take a true ball buster to have the guts to come out with it.
My girl CarolynT brings up a great point: it's okay to admit to drug use and assult or abuse, but the idea of being #### is competely unacceptable? Hmm...
HogFan, I agree that personal stuff should be left at home and should never come to work, but you should check out the NPR piece about Esera and the constant struggle he faced at work. When he made huge hits on Elway in the SuperBowl, he was more terrified of being recognized and "outted," so much so that he didn't want to get credit for the sack. He lived in constant fear. It was a catch-22, he was damned if he did and damned if he didn't.
Belle - Tough topic tackled nicely. Clearly there are #### professional athletes participating in various sports right now. The statistics of the general population bear this out.
Naturally where I'm at (SF Bay Area) we don't really have much anti-guy sentiment. Live and let live.
I have to think many people live a phony straight life out of fear, some going as far as taking on a wife of convenience. I saw this first hand in the corporate world. Perhaps in the entertainment industry it is more prevalent than say the NFL.
NorCal- I agree with you, I think that the coastal cities (Cal and NY especially) are very open to sexual relationships of any sex. It is the "flyover" states that aren't so friendly. I've know a few people to build elaborate lies to cover their sexual preferences. As a member of the entertainment industry (specifically the theatrical variety) I think most of my fellow actors are pretty open with their lives. I haven't met too many who feel the need to hide it. The ones who have are generally the higher profile or screen variety. Just goes to show that the higher you are, the harder you can fall and the greater the need to cover it up.
TJW:
Great post. I think society is more open to #### men, however it'll be a huge deal if somebody did come out.
You said "Would they still protect and follow the audibles of their #### quarterback?"
I sure hope that the team would still protect that particular player if he was #### to come to a common goal to win the Super Bowl, or any other championship from a particular sport.
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Hey GBrent! Is that ####y new avatar your brand spankin' new self portrait?! You're right about the title, but this is a huge "What if..." How's life on the west coast?
No airdate for #### Eye yet...but I'll let you know! Should be within the next month!
Aulancer02- Nice to see a new face. I agree, society is much more tolerant of #### men, but I question how much more open middle America is to the idea o####a href="http://community.foxsports.com/CensorSetting.aspx?url=http://community.foxsports.com/blogs/tjw118/2006/08/23/What_if">#### athlete versus the coastal states and cities such as New York, LA, Miami, and San Fran which are more liberal and more accepting. If you had a Green Bay #### QB, how would those fans react? Thanks for checking out the post.
Slammin6- You'll have to enlighten me on Junior Seau. I just checked out his website but found no mention of any "sexual preference." What am I missing? I'm very curious!
Good post. I think most sports fans will say it wouldn't bother them if, say, a pro football player came out of the closet. How they would act in reality might be totally different. The whole 'What If' scenario makes you think. What if it was your favorite player? Again, nice thought-provoking piece.
I urge people to check out 'Bloody Sunday'. When you read the part of the #### NFL player, you will get to understand why that player keeps his identity a secret and what would happen to the player if he were to come out while he's still in the league. 'Playmakers' only scratched the surface with the whole situation with the WR.
I would not mind if a player came out. I would feel bad knowing that his career would probably turn for the worse. The NFL has not kept up with society in terms of how it embraces ####s far better than it ever has before.
He seems to have a hernial tear outey as I did as a child...Thanks for asking.
Are you following Agassi's "last hurrah" this moment? I am! Oh, the pathos!
Plus...
Hey, I'm sorry about copying and posting, but Jeff George was just signed by the Raiders!
Does anyone else believe in the Apocalypse? I saw him play in the Indiana semi-state HS for Warren Central in 1985...I was 15...He had a pro arm back then. My BHSS team lost about 31-0...
Who says a theater girl can't love sports? I may be a Northwestern graduate, but I'm an Ohio State Buckeye at heart. Born and raised in Columbus, Ohio, I relocated to New York City to find a life on the stage. After four years of trying, (and finding some success), I am preparing to return to graduate school to pursue journalism. As an NGS II finalist, I got my feet wet as a FoxSports blogger and think it may be my new calling. Like theater, I doubt a job in online journalism will pay very well...but what can you do? I sing, I dance, and I can drink beer and eat chicken wings at a sports bar like the best of them...what more could you ask for?