As many of you know, My father in law has bladder cancer. Back in 2006, he went through a really tough spot. And we thought that he was not going to make it. But his will to live was stronger than the cancer.
And my one thought for the New Year of 2007 was that, he could have one more Christmas with his family. Well we got that one more Christmas. And we have had an additional three and half months, and counting.
A couple months back we got in touch with our local Ho####e, and they agreed to come in and prove him with a help for a couple hours a day.
And everything appeared to be going well. He was eating well. But I had been noticing the last couple weeks that he looked like his face was swelling. But I was being told that he was just putting on weight.
Well this past Tuesday, I called home to check on him. He didn't sound right. He told me he was sick. And you could tell in his voice that something was not right. So I got on the phone and got to calling people who could get to him faster than I could.
His youngest daughter got to him. When she got to the house, what she found made us know something was not right. So when the ho####e worker came in. They checked him and told my sister in law that he was okay. She called me back, and I told her, that he was not okay. That she needed to get him to the hospital ASAP.
Well to make a long story short, finally my husband and his sister were able to get him to the hospital. When the hospital ran tests on him, we found out that his organs were starting to shut down.
The tests also showed that his cancer has spread past his bladder. It has gotten into his stomach and it is eating through it. The doctor has told us he has about 2 weeks. He will going to the local Ho####e home here on Monday. For now he is still in the hospital.
So I thank God for the time he gave us with him. But he is ready to go home. He is tired of fighting and I only want what he wants.
Please keep us in your prayers. And thank you and I love and appreciate each and everyone of you.
I just want to say thanks to Gunaquat for keeping everyone updated with what was going on with my family. I read everyone's comments left on his blog. And I wanted to let everyone know what was going on first hand. And to thank everyone personally for your prayers and thoughts.
The next few weeks are going to be grueling. But I know that God will take care of my father in law. And when it is time for him to go home to his reward, God will call him. And he is ready to go. My mother in law is waiting for him. Along with my Grandfather (they were friends) and my Grandmother.
So to my family, I love you and we will get through this together.
Tsfan I know we bump heads when I show Tony on my frames by frames and also know we get along with it and on other things on here as friends. I hear you and feel for you at this time and will pray as I did when I first read about your father in law. I won't go in to details just yet, but my Mom sent me a SAD/WARNING e-mail Yesterday about my oldest brother who is 50 years old and said he has to go for treatment and they think they got it in time.
I never like that word THINK how the heck do you know that if he still has not had any treatment yet. Also for me to go and get a check up right away per order of big brother.
Forensic thank you for the kind words. My prayers will be with you and your family. I am with you on the word THINK. We were old by the doctors We Think We Got all Of his with the Chemo treatments he went through.
My dad told me something yesterday, that I had not really thought about. And I hope that it will comfort you as much as it comforted me.
God does heal. He does not always heal everyone. Why you might ask? When Our work here is done, and we have done all that we can do, God will not heal us here. But he will heal us in Heaven.
And if our work here is not done, He will heal us here on Earth to finish that work that we have.
And Forensic even though we don't always agree, I still consider you one of my best internet friends.
That is what makes this blogging group so great. We don't always agree. And sometimes we just have to agree to disagree.
But when one of us in pain, we pull together as a family. And that means more than words can say.
charrit Thank you for allowing me to express myself. Sometimes it helps to just talk to someone who is not right here. Someone who is not walking the same tight rope that we are.
Tsfanpc.....My heart goes out to you as will my prayers. No words will comfort you, no touch will ease the pain. When we are losing a loved one we are never the same. I walk with the memory of those I so loved and take comfort only in the fact they are in peace with God, above.
I HAVE TOLD YOU HOW I FEEL AND WHAT I FEEL AND WHEN IT GETS TO THE POINT THAT YOU WANT TO YELL, SCREAM, CUSS AND NEED SOMEONE TO THROW THINGS AT , YOU HAVE MY IM AND IF NEED BE I'LL SEND A PHONE NUMBER. LOADS ARE NOT QUITE AS HEAVY WHEN THE LOAD IS SHARED WITH A FRIEND.
Charrit & Tsfan - Thanks U 2, and will do, I am to call him tomarrow to find out more details, cause I know my brother he might not have said all/everything bad about this to my mom at first. If you know what I mean.
Tsfanpc - Your dad is a very wise man and very kind words of wisdom. Another one is something like this.
( Be blessed with the joy for the time you have had with someone , then in anger for the time no more. )
TSfan- So sorry to hear of about your father in law but based on your blog it does sound as if he is at peace and your family is together and supporting one another, sometimes that is the best we can hope for. Will be thinking of you...
Tsfan - sorry to hear of your father in laws cancer. It is good that he has family to be him and for all to cherish their special time with him. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care.
Thanks for sharing this with all of us. I hope you will continue to have strength and peace during this time. We are always here for you! If I can do anything, just send me a message!
24x2 Thanks for stopping by. There are no words. But is sure does help knowing there are so many nice people in the world who will take a few minutes out of their busy lives to leave a message, say a prayer or just send a thought our way.
I have been sharing these messages with the family. And they are takng comfort in all the messages being left.
photogr the fact that he is ready is the only thing that is making this bearable. If that were not the case I am sure the family would not be handling this as well. Thanks again for the prayers.
gunaquat I do thank you so much for all the kind words that you have expressed to me. You have become a really dear friend. And I thank God that He sent you my way.
Forensic2 My dad is a very wise man. He doesn't feel like he is, but in my eyes he is the wisest of all men. Guess that is the way most daughter's see their dad's.
And thank you for the beautiful saying. I took great comfort in it.
klvalus Yes the family is rallying around him and together. We are finding peace with the knowledge that he is ready to go. And the fact that we have each other to lean on is giving us the strength to not break down in front of him. We are all keeping a smile on our face with we are with him. And doing everything we can to keep his spirits up.
Gerrel Thank you. He has been battling this cancer for about six years. I have cherished every moment with him. These past 10 years I have been able to really get to know him. I always knew that he was a special man.
Because he took care of his wife when she was sick until the day she died 20 years ago. He even uprooted his life and went to help one of his wife's cousins who was dying. He helped her and her mother until the day that they died.
This is for everyone who has left a comment. I thank you so much for taking a few minutes out of your busy lives to leave a kind word for us.
Each and every comment has really touched me and I am sharing your comments with the family and they are too touched by your kind words.
My father in law is now in the care of our local Ho####al house. He is eating and keeping up his strength. But the pain is starting to become unbearble at times for him.
The doctors have given him at most 4 weeks. But I have learned to never underestimate this man. Back in 2007 the doctors gave him only 6 weeks. But his will to live was just too strong.
But I know the reality of the situation also. No matter how long he lives, he is never coming home again, unless God heals him. But like my dad told me, It is unlikely, because my father in law has did the job that God put him for. And it is now time for him to rest. And that rest is going to come sooner or later.
It all depends on when God whispers to him, Enough, come on home.
Thank you again for all the prayers. Just keep us in your prayers. The prayers are working to give us strength and comfort.
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